Pragmatism?

So what do we do about Kim Jong-un?  Sanctions don't seem to have had any effect, Trump's bluster doesn't seem to have had any effect, international condemnation doesn't seem to have had any effect, so what now?  Can I suggest that I think the question which should be being asked is - what does he want?  Surely he doesn't really want to go to war with America, either directly or indirectly - what on earth would there be in it for him, other than the destruction of his country and probably himself?  So what's he really after?  And I think what he really, really wants (Spice Girls) is respect, recognition, to be accepted as a member of the nuclear club, to be one of the "big boys".  And if that means appearing to accept that he's "won" and give him his moment of glory, it would seem to me to be a small price to pay.