Whatever floats your boat.

Apparently there have been some raised eyebrows at the sight of the widow of a soldier killed in Afghanistan applauding as his coffin passed by. This reminded me of people who regularly write to a local paper round here complaining of flowers being placed by the roadside or attached to lampposts to mark the site of a fatal accident. And then there are those who pull a face when a pop song is played at a funeral. We all have to deal with grief in our own way and whatever gives us comfort or solace is all that matters. I did some pretty weird things in the immediate aftermath of my wife's death - although as it was in the privacy of my own home, nobody knew. It's easy to say that these people should mind their own business, but it goes deeper than that. It's not just a matter of showing respect for the dead, it's also showing respect and understanding for those who are left behind and have to pick up the pieces.